The CBSE Class X results were announced on May 6, and social media platforms were abuzz with parents from different walks of life proudly posting their children’s results.
Getting a 90+% has become the new normal in the times we live in. And thus, we don’t see many parents flaunting their kids’ results if they happen to be anything below 90%! It is considered to be equal to a crime if one does not score above 90….Sigh……!
Vandana Katoch, a mother and resident of New Delhi decided to take the plunge and embrace her son’s marks not just with pride but also humour.
Taking to Facebook, Vandana congratulated her son, who had been diagnosed with ‘teen depression’, and happened to struggle with Maths, Science and Hindi until a few months ago. As a mother, Katoch reiterated to her child that he had indeed done well.
“This is just to tell my kid, Mama’s super proud, considering where you were in January. He pushed himself against himself to be here.”
“Super proud of my boy who scored a 60% in Class 10 board exams. Yes it is not a 90, but that doesn’t change how I feel. Simply because I have seen him struggle with certain subjects almost to the point of giving up, and then deciding to give his all in the last month-and-a-half to finally make it through! Here’s to you, Aamer.
And others like you – fishes asked to climb trees. Chart your own course in the big, wide ocean, my love. And keep your innate goodness, curiosity and wisdom alive. And of course, your wicked sense of humour!”
While the message in no way undermines the hard work and efforts of children who score well, the reassurance in your child’s future despite not doing so well is also equally important.
Vandana’s son, Aamer, student of Vasant Valley School, Delhi, was not happy after he got his marks in class and felt there wasn’t anything to be proud about. It was then his mom, Vandana who reminded him that each child’s journey is different.
Unfortunately, parents whose kids don’t get the marks are always on a back foot, never speak out about it and choose to remain in isolation. More than the peer pressure, the parents are perhaps guilty that they did not invest more time with their children.
We all desire an ideal world for our children, but the meaning of “ideal” can be very subjective. The best of the students may end up mediocre in life, while the most average students excel if they have the right attitude.
As parents, all we can give our kids is the right direction; marks can only determine aptitude, but guidance determines the right attitude.